“When any elder relative likes to joke and remind me that
the internet is ‘anti social’ I would like to remind them that
would it not have been for the internet, I would have never
met half the amazing souls I have.”
Never would I have thought, that through my little blog, so many new friendships, that stretch the length of the UK and even the world, would be born. Nothing, like really, NOTHING beats the feeling when you instantly click with someone. You GET each other, you’re on the same wavelength, you can appreciate one another’s humour and even value your differences. Meet Emma. Someone I’ve not known too long, in the grand scale of everything, but definitely fits the cliche of ‘feeling like you’ve been friends for years’. When any elder relative likes to joke and remind me that the internet is ‘anti social’ I would like to remind them that would it not have been for the internet, I would have never met half the amazing souls I have. It brings people all over the world together.
We met through Instagram (how amazingly 21st century!) then in person at a press day and bonded over our love of acting, cheese and wine, amongst other things. A few days later we met again at the Cosmopolitan Influencer awards and then planned to spend our first fashion week together, helping one other navigate events, get lost, have a good laugh and a glass of wine (or 3!) A firm friendship was made and we’ve been pretty inseparable since, chatting daily, helping each other out, asking one another’s advice and even going on our first press trip together in May! For me, Blogging friends have totally changed my life and here’s why.
A problem shared is a problem halved. This has really resonated with me since having some girls who I know are always there for a chat or on tap advice. Whether it’s a techy problem, a crappy comment or having an uninspiring day, they’re always there to lift me up and point me in the right direction.
A problem shared is a problem halved.
Sometimes, blogging really can be a tale of two, very contrasting halves. On one hand it’s extremely socialable. You have hundreds of friendly faces willing to help you out or just have a chat over twitter, Instagram or Facebook. Sometimes I’ll get a really overwhelming response to something I’ve shared on Insta stories, reminding me of how connected we can really be online. Of course the parties and press days can be super fun and the chance to meet some lovely people too. On the other hand, 80% of my time is spent by myself, for hours on end and sometimes even the events I do go to can be quite isolating and lonely. Particularly when you don’t know anyone, you can get stuck with that sinking feeling of not ‘not being good enough, cool enough or looking the part’.
There’s also, unfortunately, the negative side of the internet – as with any job you have the best bits and the kind of crappy bits. I’m a VERY positive person, always wanting to be upbeat, spread positivity and see silver linings. However even the negativity of the internet can really get on top of me at times, it seems no matter how positive you are, there’s always going to be one person who fancies raining on your parade, and that can really suck. It’s hard to deal with and when it happens, I can’t tell you how much having someone to moan to and have a pity party with helps! I feel instantly better and literally like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! It’s great to have girls there that can relate and sympathise!
You’ll be pleasantly suprised just how many people would
love to get to know you and have a good conversation.
My blogging girls constantly inspire me to push myself, try something new and work 1000x harder! When you work by yourself, having someone to go to for advice, a second opinion, or to share their experiences and essentially, act as colleges can be really helpful. Baring in mind I only really started to make solid friendships not even a year ago, so don’t feel pressured or deflated if you haven’t found your little tribe yet. When I lived in Devon I definitely felt a bit left out, not being able to go to blogger events, meet people and make friends. Moving definitely accelerated this process and meant I had the opportunity to meet people that perhaps before I couldn’t have. With all that said, I can’t tell you how many INCREDIBLE girls I have yet to meet but absolutely ADORE!
Instagram and Twitter has really helped me build online friendships, so much so that when I’ve come to bump into a few of them in person, it’s like we’ve met 20x before – that’s the beauty of blogging too – you feel like you really get to know the person behind it all! Don’t do what I did when I first started and expect these things to happen. If you can’t attend many events, see which ones you can go to, or try and set up your own little meet up with like minded people (with lots of cake and bubbles!) – be pro active! Compliment someones killer shoes on Instagram, join in Conversations on twitter and ask questions for peoples advice on things on Insta stories. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find out just how many people are willing to share their advice with you and have a good chat.
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I really hoped you loved this one huns, finding some friends through blogging really has totally revolutionised my blogging life and I literally have no idea what I’d do without them!
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