WE ARE FORCED TO RELISH IN THE EXCITEMENT OF CHRISTMAS, PARTY SEASON AND SEE THE NEW YEAR IN WITH A BANG, WHEN IN ACTUALITY, NOT EVERYONE IS IN THE BEST PLACE
As a new year begins, gym memberships multiply and new resolutions surface, each of us vow to continually better ourselves and lives. January begins with a plethora of blog posts flooding into my Twitter Feed, reminiscing over the past year, goals achieved, aspirations for the new year and all the excitement to come. There’s nothing I love more than bringing some positivity into my life and injecting it into my blog to help lift others up. You’ll know from my last post, that I tend to get a bit down in the dumps every time January swings around and so every effort is made to distract myself from the impending season of drizzly weather and low motivation that ensues.
We are forced to relish in the excitement of Christmas, party season and see the New Year in with a lavish bang, when in actuality, not everyone is in the best place and all this forced happiness placed upon us can only worsen things. A year ago, I made a conscious effort to write a little goal list for the up coming year – some totally, crazily ambitious, others a little more achievable. Did I only manage to accomplish about 3 from the list of 16? Yes. Do I feel bad about it? Kind of, but I’m trying to see things differently. The Pressure to reach every goal is exceedingly strong, so for something a little bit different, but just as motivating and uplifting in it’s own right, I’m talking about why it’s okay to not always have life in the bag and to smash everything you do. (because sometimes we need to be a little kinder to ourselves.)
IF I ALLOWED MYSELF TO GET SUCKED INTO INSTAGRAM ALGORITHM INDUCED SADNESS, WHAT GOOD WOULD WHAT DO?
It’s okay to not reach every goal because sometimes life takes other courses, turns and it all works out for the best. It also gives us fresh inspiration, something to aim towards and like anything in life you can’t always put a timer on things. Yes I would have loved to have grown another thousand (or 100000) on Instagram this year, but despite all my efforts (and the wonderful algorithm) I’ve decided it’s been detrimental and have focussed my efforts elsewhere to a Platform with more sustenance – YouTube and my blog. Keep trying, don’t let failures set you back and remember that you can’t see rainbows without a little rain. I’ve grown through the crap times and am strangely thankful for the difficult patches I faced in 2017, because it’s 100% made me more resilient, strong and focus on what truly matters in life.
WE LIVE IN A TIME WHERE SOCIAL MEDIA CAN ACT AS AN UNINTENTIONAL MEANS OF COMPARISON
In the run up to 2018 I found myself seeing all these incredible things people had not only achieved, but planned and were soon to conquer in the New Year. Whilst this had me cheering for them, it also reminded me of my unmotivated state. I don’t like to compare myself to others, nor to their progress but when you feel like everyone around you is excelling and you’re stuck feeling lost, it can further make you feel bad about your own progress, or lack there of. Recently, I’ve found the Christmas and New Year period to throw me off a bit. I’m not feeling prepared, ready or motivated and have taken time away from filming and writing to refresh and enjoy myself ( I totally recommend this!)
The process of coming back has been slow and I’m feeling a little unsure about the kind of content I want to produce and not get sucked into what I think I should be producing. (So it would be totally interesting, plus a massive help if you fancy letting my know what your FAVE blog posts and videos I do are, so that I can keep doing what you guys are enjoying – feel free to message me on Instagram, always loving getting to know you all!)
BE PROUD OF THE THINGS YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED, NO MATTER HOW SIGNIFICANT AND BE FOREVER THANKFUL
New Year in particular can be a tricky time if you’re not feeling 100% or feeling a bit down about your goals, aspirations and accomplishments. But as always, when you hit a tough patch, have a down day, week or month, think of the things you have achieved. You don’t have to have won an Oscar or put down a house deposit (although if you have – yay, bloody well done!) When I feel like life hasn’t really gone my way recently, I think of how privileged I actually am. There’s people without clean water to drink, a roof over their heads, food or family and I’m here healthy, with lovely people around me and somewhere to call home.
Don’t beat yourself up about not getting things you set out for, it will happen, believe in yourself and work your arse off until you get there! If you see the New Year as a chance to motivate and conquer your list of goals – go for it! If you struggle in the hype and pressure of suddenly being expected to be full of focus, take it easy and brainstorm a list of achievable things you want to reach for. Remember, goals should be set by yourself, go for what you want – you totally got this. Happy 2018 beauts.
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I hope you enjoyed this post as always, I’d love to know how you feel towards the end of the year or whether it doesn’t affect you in any way! I would love to hear your tips and advice that you use to keep you on track, motivated and uplifted!
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