“OVER THE LAST YEAR I’VE WILTED, LET GO AND BLOOMED AGAIN”
Come January 1st 2019, I felt like the only person on Instagram that didn’t do a review of their 2018 on insta stories. I loved looking at peoples achievements and finding out what adventures people had been up to over the last year, but in no way felt inclined to share my own. Truthfully, I’m probably afraid of looking back and feeling underwhelmed with what I achieved and did. I don’t want to compare my 2018 to my own previous years or anyone else for that matter. It’s all too easily done and something I’d rather avoid whilst climbing into a new year. I wrote about my current feelings about where I am in life, last year, in a chat about the pressures of being a young adult, which you can catch here.
But I do feel like I’ve done a fair amount of personal growth since then, I still feel very similarly about most thing. I don’t want to look back over the last year and feel like I didn’t travel enough, didn’t win enough, didn’t go out and do amazing shit enough. I’m feeling uncharacteristically upbeat so far this January and wanted my first post of the year to be something that came naturally. I’ve often thought about how much I’ve grown and learnt over the last year. I’ve let go, wilted and then bloomed again and learnt a lot of lessons I’m thankful for in the process. So here’s a few important things I’ve learnt from 2018 and what it taught me.
HAVE SOME DOWN TIME AND DON’T YOU DARE FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT. EMBRACE AND ABUSE IT.
This year I’ve spent a lot of afternoons, lazy mornings and dinners with family. I could have been working and being self employed, there’s always that guilt over whether or not you’re doing enough or questioning whether you’re slacking. But when it all boils down to it; what would you regret more – over spending time with loved ones, or missing out due to lack of a balance?
Make memories, enjoy being in the moment and don’t bloody apologise for it either. Not everything needs to be documented online either, just because it’s not on Instagram, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen (still reminding myself of this one!) Be thankful for who is around you and spend as much time as you can enjoying their company! Life happens and slips by, so relish every second.
LIFE HAS A FUNNY WAY OF GUIDING YOU TO THE RIGHT PATH
Last year I was determined to do something. I was adamant it was the only thing to help me progress and without it, I would be a total failure. It didn’t work out and I was devastated. Fast forward a couple of months and it in fact showed me that it was wrong all along and had I had not realised this, I wouldn’t be on the path I was on now, working towards all the things I am.
I always say ‘everything happens for a reason’ because it really bloody does. There also can’t be rainbows without a little rain and always try and see the bigger picture. What we thought were our biggest failures, could turn out to be our biggest successes in the long run. Trust yourself and instincts and know you’ll be alright.
THE IMPORTANCE OF SETTING GOALS
When life gets tough, make a list. I think the reason I feel so good, even being so fresh into a new year, is because I’ve made things for myself to look forward to. I’m a self confessed, January blues sufferer (and February and March.. if that’s a thing.) So set little goals, but don’t be disheartened if you haven’t reached them by a time frame. Be kind to yourself and think of things that you’d love to do and that would enrich your life and work life. Invest in those.
Goals don’t have to be work targets per say, set a hobby goal. Take up a new instrument (I’ve promised myself that I’ll be 100x better on the bass Guitar this year!) Book in a course, join a book club or start a blog. Make sure you have little things to look forward to and to keep you going, even through lifes, little, rough patches.
YOU ARE ENOUGH AND DON’T QUESTION YOURSELF
This is a biggie. Don’t ever let someone make you feel like you are inadequate or incapable of something, especially if they’ve only known you for 10 minutes. Know when to value someones feedback, opinion and point of view, but also know it doesn’t define you. Also, plot twist, the people in authority aren’t always right and it isn’t an excuse to belittle your or your talents. If you want to do something, go for it one thousand, million percent. Use the nay-sayers as fuel and know that there will always be someone who believes in you, even when it feels like the world or universe is against you.
Use criticism to your advantage. Learn and grow from it. But don’t ever let anyone make you question yourself, values and dreams. If you need to improve on something; go for it, study, absorb, and never stop learning. You could be the juiciest peach in the world but someone will still hate peaches. Find someone that fucking loves them.
MEET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE AND CHERISH THEM
There’s nothing better than finding people on the same wavelength as you, and never underestimate how much they can enrich your life. Whether it’s through work, clubs, classes or mutual friends; connect with people with similar interests and values. Spend time with them, uplift them and hold onto them. Also, why not reconnect with old friends? Be pro active and schedule something once in a while. People are amazing and as much as I love a bit of me time, there’s something special about leaving a group of people who have just made you laugh your way to a six pack.
SHOP THE OUTFIT
Would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this one and what lessons you’ve learnt over the last year or so. If you could tell yourself one thing this time last year, what would it be?
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