“YOU DO ABSOLUTELY NOT HAVE TO ‘JUST PUT UP’ WITH BODY SHAMING AND HATEFUL REMARKS, JUST BECAUSE YOU BLOG”
First things first, let’s establish my stance on this (I ain’t gonna make you wait for my verdict 😉 ) You do absolutely NOT have to ‘just put up’ with hateful remarks, negativity and body shaming because you blog. This ‘just deal with it’ attitude’ just further encourages us to feel even more insecure about ourselves. After humorously making light of ‘my first YouTube’ hater once on Instagram, I received the most DM’s I’ve ever gotten, full of people loving the way I light heartedly approached to something that really, isn’t very nice to deal with. Many bloggers and public figures (rightfully so) defend themselves against horrid remarks, but are swiftly shot down for retaliating.
Whilst many would make the trolls face up to their comments, in true Primrose style, I just made fun of myself, but was still promptly told by one, ‘I shouldn’t be putting myself online if I can’t deal with negativity.’ Whilst I appreciate everyones individuality and opinions, I still think we should spread kindness, erase unnecessary negativity and lift each other up, because isn’t life hard enough already? Yes, there will always be criticisers, in any job you do – but I’m still appalled that people think you have to ‘just put up’ with hateful, disgusting and sometimes dangerously threatening comments. Grab a drink, you’re in for a meaty read.
IMAGE JANICE FROM YOUR OFFICE WRITING INTIMIDATING LETTERS AND LEAVNG THEM ON YOUR DESK, OR MIKE, YOUR BOSS, SLATING YOUR FIGURE IN THAT TOP YOU CAME IN WEARING.
Imagine being verbally abused and threatened every time you finished a new piece of work. This is the more extreme of examples, but this wouldn’t be tolerated at any work places, otherwise there would be court cases opening dozens by the second. Would you simply just deal with it? Complain to someone and be shot down, or cry when you get home? Full time career or hobby, by writng and taking images, you in no way ‘have to’ become immune to disgraceful comments. There will always be critics, but when it gets obsessive, or dangerous there are measures to take and people to turn to. And for everything else? You stand up for yourself and don’t bloody apologise for it! You are absolutely allowed to speak up for yourself. If someone places a horrific comment online, it’s no one else’s job to deal with the repercussion but themselves. If you said something horrible in school, you were made to face up to it and I feel like the same should apply online. We all choose to deal with it differently, I’m personally more quiet, would leave a ‘kill them with kindness’ reply or block if things get nasty. You don’t have to deal with it and if you want to address it, you do what is right for you.
PREVIOUSLY, WE WOULD GOSSIP ABOUT WHAT WE’D READ ABOUT CELEBRITIES IN MAGAZINES. WHEREAS NOW, WE FEEL AS THOUGH IT’S JUSTIFIED TO DISECT THEIR BIKINI BODIES FREELY ON INSTAGRAM
PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES, BE A COMPASSIONATE HUMAN
We all have different views and opinions and of course I disagree with things I see, but consciously choosing to value someones opinion whilst realising yours may be different is a great quality to have. Leaving distractive, rude, hurtful comments won’t better the world in the slightest. You never know what’s behind closed doors and one throwaway comment can be devastating and have an awful impact on someones life and mental health. Whilst I have learnt to appreciate those who actively choose to spend their time trolling and hating, must have a number of issues of their own, we should in no way just use that as an excuse to deem the behaviour acceptable.
I’m sure we would all be shocked to see directly hateful comments on our personal social media, so why should it be okay just because you publish more photos than others? I struggle to see how offensive a Primark Haul and a OOTD snap can be. If a comment isn’t going to be constructive in the slightest and is just malice, try to think twice before hitting that send button. Be positive, treat others gently and how you would like to be treated yourself. Why not make the world a kinder and more loving place?
“YOU COULD BE THE JUICIEST PEACH IN THE WORLD AND THERE WOULD STILL BE SOMEONE WHO HATES PEACHES”
I‘ve probably included this quote in bout 50% of my blog posts. I’m actually quite surprised I haven’t ended up getting it tattooed on my forehead. It’s my favourite quote, because it’s a well needed reminder that you really can’t please everyone, so don’t live your life for anyone but yourself. Tip-toeing around other isn’t practical and you often end up forsaking your own happiness. Live passionately, do what makes you happy and as long as you are conscious of the world around you and don’t hurt others – you’re handling life just fine! Someone will always have something to say about your decisions, whether that’s a colleague behind your back, a family member or friend. Unfortunately, it’s just more prevalent online because it’s a place opinions are thrown around like a Wimbledon match.
Previously we would gossip about celebs in Magazines, yet now, we feel it’s justified to plaster their instagrams with our opinions on their bikini bodies. Imagine if we got this everytime we uploaded a holiday snap to our private Facebook? No matter how a stupendous person you are, live your life publicly or not, there may will always be someone who disagrees. Shake it off or speak up, grow and surround yourself with inspiration and loving people. Do whatever feels right for you, but know that you still have a right to stand up for yourself, just as anyone else does.
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